Love is so illusory that the quest to find it may seem endless. We know it exists because others know it, but the path may be so obscure that it is tempting to abandon all research. There are no sure-fire methods to bring you love, but these tips will help you stick to the right path.
1. Get to know someone
A. Understand what you have to offer.
To love means sharing yourself with someone else who accepts you for who you are. Before you can expect someone else to accept you, you must know the “You” who you are projecting. You could start by writing down the answers to the questions below.
—What are your best qualities?
—What do you like to do with your time?
—What do you like about yourself?
—What would you like to do as a job?
—What makes you feel uncomfortable?
Your answers will help you to paint a portrait of the “You” that you offer to a potential partner.
B. Be confident.
Unlike what you can see in romantic movies and series, everyone has a chance in love, not just the most popular or the most conventionally attractive of us. The key is to be confident about what you have to offer to someone. When it comes to finding love, there is no proper personality, no special feature that will make you standout, only confidence counts.
This video is so beautiful, charming, and comforting. We hope everyone who lacks confidence understands the message behind it:
So believe in yourself and the things you can accoumplish, and remember a quote of Alan Cohan:
The deeper you love yourself, the more the universe will affirm your worth. Then you can enjoy a lifelong love affair that brings you the richest fulfillment from inside out.
C. Become aware of what you are looking for in another person.
Knowing your relationship needs helps you know yourself. Writing down what you consider to be the most important traits of your potential partner is a good way to understand what you really mean when you say you are looking for love.
Try not to be too specific with this list of traits. For example, instead of writing “1.80 m, brown hair, black eyes,” focus on the personality traits that matter to you. Do you want someone honest and fair? Someone who shares your passion for books?
It may also be useful to put in writing a firm list of crippling features. For example, you might not want a partner who travels abroad for six months of the year or someone who does not get along with your family.
Remember that the objective here is not to project your future partner: you just outline the basic qualities you would like a partner to have, so that you can better understand your own needs. There is a good chance that the person you end up loving will only have some of the qualities on your list.
2. Communicate with people
A. Meet people.
One of the best ways to achieve this goal is to start by making friends. We always say that making friends is the safest way to find love, and that because it’s true, it’s a good way to build a mutual relationship based on trust and admiration. When making friends, keep the tips below in mind.
B. Introduce yourself as someone available.
C. Try dating services.
You can try Tinder, which is a location-based social search mobile app and Web application most often used as a dating service, that allows users to use a swiping motion to like or dislike other users, and allows users to chat if both parties like each other.
And for shy guys, this video may help you. You will find a review of 4 best dating service apps, so enjoy it!
3. Make the step
A. Invite people to meet.
B. Stay on the same wavelength.
Try to be in sync with what the other person wants.
C. Be vulnerable
Love is a language which built on affection, trust, attraction, mutual consideration, and it all starts with two people agreeing that they want to continue together. You will know that you have achieved this when you discover that you hold this person to a deep and selfless point and that it will probably be the case forever.
D. Try again.
If a relationship did not work, you may feel hurt for a very long time. It is important to start again. When you get in touch with someone special, don’t let a broken heart or breakup experience you’ve faced to be an obstacle in your life.
At some point in our lives, almost every one of us will have our heart broken. Imagine how different things would be if we paid more attention to this unique emotional pain. Psychologist Guy Winch reveals how getting well from heartbreak, and offers a toolkit on how to, eventually, move on:
Learn from your mistakes. Always try to understand if you have been able to do something wrong so that you do not repeat the same mistake again.
Finding love is not a simple task. If you want to find love, be a loving person, because to love means to give as much as you receive.
3. Read more about Finding love
Finally, we invite you to read Speed Dating book. It expands on Dating principles and offers additional dating tools and tactics that allow singles to more effectively evaluate a relationship before a large investment in time and emotions has been made. It provides the questions to ask yourself, your date, and others to make a more informed decision in the shortest amount of time with the maximum dignity and minimal risk of heartache.
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